As a continuation of the last post, where I shared with you the major ways in which I repaired my unhealthy relationship with food, we’re going to discuss more ways in which you can work on healing the fearful emotions that go along with acne.
After all, the reason people end up with such fearful relationships with food, is not so much the food itself, but because of the fear of how acne makes us feel. And we feel like we can control those feelings if we control the food.
So the key to happy life is not controlling the food, but healing the fear and emotions.
Become Your Authentic Self (Let Go of Your “Image”)
I should have put this in the last post about how I healed my relationship with food, but the post was getting too long, so it’s in this one instead.
One of the biggest reasons acne has been so painful for me is because I have always had this image in my mind of how I wanted to be…. and well… part of that is that I wanted people (and men) to think I was beautiful and sexy!
I’m sure I’m not the only one, considering how bombarded we are these days with images of “perfect” people everywhere, making us feel like our looks are our only worth.
And that’s why acne makes us feel like such garbage, because it’s in direct opposition to that image.
Something to consider is all the other little ways that we try to live up to this “image” in our mind of how we want others to see us. The more we push away our authentic selves to try and feed this image, the more acne is going to hurt us emotionally.
Surprisingly the thing that helped me the absolute most with this was writing a particular post here on the Love Vitamin, called ‘Top 6 Insecurities I Have About My “Image” & How to Stop Caring What People Think‘.
In that article I listed and described all the little things I do (did) to keep up this image I have of myself; the image of how I want other people to perceive me.
When I wrote that, I had NO idea what an impact it would have on me. I mean, I was mentally aware of all these things, but when I saw them all written down like that, suddenly it was like ‘WOAH! How ridiculous is all this stuff!’.
After that, it was so much easier to just let go of those things (soon after, I cut off my dreadlocks), and I really do feel more like my authentic self now. And the fear about acne is no where near as strong too.
I would highly suggest spending some time and making a list of your little “image” things, and then work on letting go of them!! It’s truly eye opening.
Along with this, I would also start putting effort into developing all your talents and hobbies and projects that align with your authentic self – stuff that you can be proud of that has nothing to do with how you look. If your looks are the only thing you are proud of, then of course acne is going to hurt!
Learn to Accept Yourself Just As You Are

Along a similar line as the point above, a key to acne not being so emotionally painful is learning to love and accept yourself no matter what. And that means accepting yourself whether you have acne or not.
For those of you who believe in energetic or spiritual reasons for disease, acne is apparently caused by “not accepting or disliking yourself” (from Louise Hay)… which doesn’t surprise me. Most of you can relate to that in that you probably feel like you dislike yourself because of acne … but what if it was in reverse? What if you have acne because you don’t accept or like yourself?
Either way, the answer is to learn to be kinder to yourself. Treating yourself with compassion, love, acceptance, and respect – exactly the same way that you would treat a friend. If you treat yourself this way, acne isn’t going to sting so badly.
You can read more about learning to love yourself here. You also may need to work on your self awareness techniques, as I talked about in the last article (meditation can help). If you aren’t aware of your thoughts, you can’t stop yourself when you begin to put yourself down.
Another technique you can try is affirmations. Saying positive affirmations work to change the story in your head to a more positive one. Even if you don’t believe it at first, over time, the affirmation will indeed have an impact on you.
For acne, Louise Hay suggests the affirmation “The love and acceptance I have for myself is reflected in my outer appearance”… but you can definitely come up with your own if that sounds too corny for you.
Try Other Energy Healing Techniques like EFT
I already mentioned in the last article that I went and got some reiki sessions done which I believe really helped me get rid of that resonate, icky, stuck fear and pain over acne. At least it definitely coincided with when I no longer felt so fearful about it.
Supposedly when you go through a traumatic event, the emotions get imprinted into your energetic body (often referred to in terms of the body’s meridian system – a map of energetic electrical flow throughout your body), and can continue to cause you quite a bit of grief until you manage to “unstick” them. Energy healing can help you do this.
Reiki is definitely not the only energy healing option out there. Another one which is incredibly popular and apparently has one of the best track records as far as getting results is something called EFT (emotional freedom technique), sometimes just referred to as ‘tapping’.
I wrote an article about it here, and you can also read more in depth at the official EFT website (there’s about a billion different videos on youtube about it as well).
It’s a simple technique that you can do at home, although I tend to think it would be a lot easier and more effective to work with an EFT practitioner to guide you through it. I never managed to keep up with it much, but next time I’m going through something traumatic, I’m planning to try out working with an EFT practitioner.
Also, check out this guest post from Luke Sawyer, who is actually an EFT practitioner who specializes in acne.
In the comments below, share your tips and experiences with healing emotionally from acne!




13 Responses
This is great advice, but I know I struggled with intense fear (to the point of orthorexia) until I was actually clear. No matter how hard I tried to follow it, before my skin was under control, I was just constantly terrified of setting it off. I didn’t start testing my limits until my skin looked good on a consistent basis. Did you have this experience, Tracy? Have you heard of these techniques being effective for people who are still suffering with acne? I’m just curious. Maybe I’m just not as strong as some people, or was more deeply entrenched in the worry. I know that I totally agree with you about feeling like acne wrecked my “image”…
I loved that article you wrote about image, by the way. It made me realize how I’d constructed a “look” for myself to give out the vibe I wanted…I felt like I was sitting in a therapy session while I was reading it, with my whole life opening up before my eyes and watching myself craft a persona to protect myself and make me feel like I belonged somewhere. That was truly one of the most memorable pieces for me that’s ever been on a blog.
Hi Kit,
Yes I was definitely the same way! I was completely terrified of setting off acne, and not very accepting of it (or me, with acne). But yes for me, my personal growth and experimentation did mainly happen afterwards, when my skin was mostly clear, but still struggling with mild hormonal breakouts and the fear of acne.
I guess I just didn’t know about these things or didn’t put them into practice when my acne was severe so I don’t know if they would have worked for me. And unless you put a lot of effort into these when you had acne Kit (and it definitely didn’t work) then I wouldn’t say it’s because you’re not strong or worried more than others.
But to answer your question, yes I do think these are effective for people still struggling with acne. Maybe not completely – I’m sure none of this is going to make you be 100% okay with acne – but I think they would definitely help, or at least make it sting a lot less. And also mentally and emotionally make the space in your life for clear skin to come to you.
I’m guessing the more severe your acne, the more challenging this is, but I get quite a few people emailing me telling me that learning to love and accept themselves (&affirmations & stuff like that) etc, really made a huge difference for them. Like doing this stuff first really paved the way for them to get clear later.
Hi Tracey, I have a question for you. When I was on yasmin birth control my skin was super clear, a month of coming off it and i got acne like never before. I had mild acne before, and I went on the yasmin because of my horrendously painful periods. I came of yasmin two and a half years ago now, and my acne has improved quite a bit from diet and lifestyle changes, but I still have some stubborn breakouts. I’m thinking about taking DIM, but I can’t afford to get my hormones checked at the moment. I was thinking if yasmin made me super clear and it (i think) contained high progesteron levels does that mean I may be estrogen dominant and DIM could help me? Thank you so much.
Hi Jennifer, yep I think DIM could help you. It helped me and I didn’t first get my hormones tested. I can’t guarantee the same results or anything, but there’s a good chance. I also found my skin was very clear when I was on the birth control shot way back when, which was only progesterone. If that means anything.
I honestly really dislike these “positive/spiritual” people and books who make you think you created acne by not liking yourself or accepting who you are. Everyone has some level of insecurity and that’s wonderful, because it teaches you about yourself. The same way you developed a toxic relationship with food, I developed one with my thoughts, from reading these books. I am a very spiritual person and I love connecting with the universe and the earth and exploring the world through a spiritual perspective. But blaming yourself and your thoughts for your acne is not how you achieve better skin. It’s just an affirmation-lined path to insanity. Never do affirmations to achieve a certain result, especially not with your skin, it will do more harm than good because you will begin to blame your thoughts and emotions for each breakout. I was just a normal happy 12 year old when I started getting acne. It got way worse when I was a vegetarian and overloaded myself with estrogen food. I didn’t hate myself to bring on this disease, it’s just a genetic response to hormones. I can choose to learn from it and find meaning from the experience, or not. But that’s up to me to find meaning in it and not for Louise Hay. Sorry to be negative, but I really feel strongly about this since I spent years reading these books and blaming myself for not loving myself more every single time I broke out. I really believed I could use my mind to make it go away. Maybe on some deep level it’s possible, but as humans we have a very restricted and limited experience because of our egos, and that’s okay! Insecurity is our experience to have and to cherish and to learn from, not resent every single time we see a zit!!!
Hi Anna,
I get what you’re saying. I don’t know about the “spiritual” reasons for it either, if that’s all just a bunch of bollocks or not. Don’t know. But I do know that self hatred / negative self talk, and hating everything that is instead of accepting it (which means accepting the fact that you’re insecure about it too) … this causes a lot of stress, which creates a real physiological reason for acne. And learning to “love thyself”, accept yourself as is, and stopping the negative self talk really does incredible things for some people and their skin. I’ve had a lot of emails from people telling me so.
However, I can see how this all could also go bad, lead to self blame, and make everything worse. Just like how healthy eating is a good thing and helps a lot of people with their acne, but it also turns bad and toxic for many people as well. Anyway – I am sorry to hear that was your experience! Sending love your way x
Hi Tracy!
I just recently did a hormonal profile with Delgado after two years of this awful struggle and taking what I thought was great care of myself, and my androstenedione was waaaaay high at 131 and my progesterone was at a 1. This is after a full year since my last test and of trying to heal myself naturall–and now the emotions are overwhelming at the moment. I feel like all of my efforts over the past year have accomplished absolutely nothing. I’m trying to heal this emotional fear of acne and being out of control, but right now honestly I just feel at a loss. <3
Hi Cheryl,
Sorry to hear how you’re feeling! There are supplements that can help you… Nick Delgado recommends the cell stabilizer (I think it’s called Liver d-tox or something on Amazon) for high adrostenedione, and for low progesterone you can try vitex, or natural progesterone cream ! sending you love! x
Thanks for your reply! Is free androstenedione dealt with through the liver?? Unfortunately I’ve been on vitex for a year and a natural progesterone oil for the same time, so I’m trying to find other options.
Thanks again!
-Cheryl
Here, read this description: http://www.amazon.com/The-Delgado-Protocol-for-Health/dp/B00J5ULKLE/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1404401909&sr=8-7&keywords=delgado+protocol …. I also showed high androstenedione on my test and Nick told me to use this… it was called “Cell Stabilizer” before, and there wasn’t much of a write up…. basically I was confused about what it really did so I didn’t try it and didn’t recommended it to anyone. But I recently saw the name has been changed to Liv D’tox and he has this detailed description now of how it actually prevents acne, so it makes more sense now. It kind of sounds like it could replace the liver supplement (Thorne SAT liver support) that I recommend taking with Estroblock
Seriously I’m on the edge of giving up. I tried Everything to get rid of my acne; changed my diet (skipped milk, gluten, sugar, all carbohydrates, egg, chili, garlic etc etc..) tried both expensive skincare as well as natural oils which only made my skin worse. I get acne all over my body.
I tried b5-vitamins, probiotics, candida-cleanse, zink, MSM, maca etc etc… Did expensive food allergy tests and treatments.
I got acne when i hit puberty and got my period when i was 14, i am now 21.
The only time my skin were pretty clear since then was when i was pregnant and breastfeeding so clearly its hormonal. But I don’t know what else to do, i eat healthy, exercise and try to sleep good and relax. Clearly its something wrong with my body…
My last “solution” is antibiotics or birth control pills… but my intuition says no but i don’t know what else to do? I’m afraid to go on dates, apply for jobs and LIVE due to my acne which is destroying my life… I wanna heal natural but what else did i miss trying in order to help my body heal itself!? 🙁
Hi Jenny, I totally understand and sending you so much love!! have you had any hormone tests to actually find out what your hormone imbalance might be? I recommend saliva testing
Thank you for your reply 🙂
I didn’t take a hormone test yet. I acutally have an appointment at the women clinic next week so then I can ask to check them. However I’m worried the only thing they might offer to stabilize my hormones will be birth control pills.. would you suggest me taking them then or should I try something natural which I yet haven’t tried instead?